I want to start off this post by thanking you guys. I want to thank you guys for reading, but thank you guys for responding back as well. I love hearing your own stories and your own thoughts and opinions. Without fail, you say something that makes me stop and think, consider another point of view.
Mike Sellers, if you are out there, I want to thank you for offering your perspective on the topic of time. Back in the post “The Pressing vs The Paramount,” you wrote something that had a profound impact on me. You said…
“As someone who turned 50 years old last week, I’d like to share some advice it took me 49 years to learn:
While some of my Paleo diet friends may not support the whole box of Oreos part , I know exactly what you are saying, and this really got me thinking.
In the previous post I mentioned above, I outlined two types of tasks:
- The Pressing – the items that feel like they need to be done now (but often can wait).
- The Paramount – the big, important things in life that we should really be working on.
Then I talked about how we should try and make the Paramount into the Pressing so we actually work on the stuff that will change our lives.
And Mike has pointed out there is actually a third type of activity… perhaps the most important of all.
3) The Precious – the moments in our life when we are truly content.
These are the times in our lives that truly take our breath away. These are the moments we remember forever, because we are truly and utterly happy.
I can think of one that happened for me just recently– holding my newborn niece Kinleigh. It was magical, it was organic, and I wanted to remember that feeling forever. When she looked up at me for the first time and smiled with her big dimples, something changed in me forever.
Sometimes finally fulfilling those Paramount goals will lead to the Precious, but I truly believe that often you can’t plan these moments. They happen, and only when you are in it, or directly after, do you realize just how Precious it was.
I mentioned how climbing Kilimanjaro was this Paramount goal of mine. I had no idea what it would feel like to stand on top of the highest point in Africa. This was a goal I always dreamed of and spent months and months planning, training, and preparing for. I had convinced myself, that the moment on the summit would be transformative, life-altering, the most Precious.
The funny thing is, while the summit was cool, it didn’t compare to the truly Precious moments. Those moments I will forever be grateful for, and they were the moments I never anticipated. They were the dinners in the meal-tent telling jokes with the team. They were watching one of our team members, Sandra Ambotaite battle back from her cold and keep going. They were listening to our Marine Chris Hadsall read an inspiring letter from a soldier we met on the trail. They were hearing the cheers and songs from our incredible porters when we arrived into camp. They were placing the ashes of our fallen soldier Cory Johnson around my neck for the first time.
In our quest for productivity, success, and self-improvement, sometimes we just have to slow down and enjoy the Precious moments we have with ourselves and with those closest to us. When we turn reading a bedtime story to your child into a game of efficiency, we have missed the point.
Please do the things you need to do. Change the world. Accomplish those huge dreams.
But I urge you, take stock and recognize the truly Precious things in your life. Slow those moments down. Enjoy every last second of them.
After all, we will never know just how many more Precious moments we have left.